I kept everything on each site exactly the same — my age, body shape, occupation, interests — except on POF, I clicked that I have children. In fact, POF gives you several options for this category, including the option of saying you would rather whether or not you have children (which — hint, hint — is kind of a dead giveaway that you do).Although Tinder sounded fun, there isn't a way for potential matches to know whether or not I have children before they decide to choose my photo.Many said that they found more meaningful connections when they were upfront about having children than when they were not.One woman said that the men she found online would often ask about her kids.After assuring my husband that this wasn't some elaborate scheme to cheat on him, I decided to see whether or not checking the "has a kid" box made me more or less desirable in the online dating world.
If, heaven forbid, I suddenly found myself single, would my profile today be as appealing to a potential partner as it was in 2007 when I didn't have 3-year-old twins attached to my hips?
Admitting to having children made me more "real." Online dating is a crap shoot.
In the day and age of , fraud scams, and other methods of deceiving people through the internet, people, especially those vulnerable enough to put themselves out there to find love, want assurances that the person they are falling for is really the person that they think he or she is. The people who contacted me on POF —mostly men although there were some women — were generally not my type.
In 2007, I met my husband on a little website called My Space.
(You may have heard of it.) One evening, I was cruising the site for dates, entering all the criteria that mattered to me — height, education, facial hair — when a picture of the man who would one day be the father of my children blowing a noise maker with his nose was so captivating that I knew I had to have him.