Women – supposedly – won’t date a man with little or no dating experience.
Of course that then leads to the question of just For a lot of men, the anxiety surrounding their dating inexperience can be overwhelming.
This is just as true with a lack of dating experience as it is with other areas in life. Many people who have no dating or sexual experience worry about being a bad kisser or a bad lay or not knowing how affectionate to be in public or any of a myriad insecurities and anxieties.
Having little (or no) experience has nothing to do with who you are as a person; it’s a contextless data point in your life. But No matter how many partners we’ve had or haven’t had, we all come to a new relationship not knowing the other person’s likes and dislikes.
The numbers are arbitrary and invented and almost always tend to be pulled from thin air; I’ve had statistics when it comes to sex and relationships.
Of course, this window of opportunity bears about as much resemblance to reality as Pokemon does to animal husbandry.
When you write a dating advice column, one of the inevitable questions that comes up is the idea of inexperience.
For many men, especially as they get older, dating inexperience is a vicious catch-22.
Just because the last 40 women you made out with liked the Swirly-Go-Round doesn’t mean that it’s not going to make your partner’s skin crawl. Do your research where you can (here’s a great place to start…), take some risks, make some mistakes.
Great sex isn’t about technique, it’s about comfort and familiarity. Letting your inexperience be your excuse for not trying or expecting someone else to always lead isn’t going to do you any good.