Which is why having the conversation won’t change how someone feels about you it’ll just let you know the cold, hard, truth.
I wrote about this extensively for Match.com’s Happen Magazine last year. The conversation kind of naturally went towards past relationships, and she told me how she has a history of rushing into things.
And your advice on the phone has always been spot-on.
Thanks again for your priceless advice, I couldn’t be happier!
Still, I want to caution men out there with the same exact advice I’d give to women if a woman is not sleeping with you, if a woman is not committing to you, if a woman is not making an effort for you, the odds are that she is just not that into you.
You can make all the excuses in the world about "taking it slow", but people who are excited about each other rarely take it slow. You’d like to move things along physically, but are willing to respect her wishes, as long as you know that you’re in an exclusive relationship.
I brought up that what I needed right now was clarity and security, and we talked for a bit about what it meant to be boyfriend and girlfriend.
Well, I told her that I like her a lot…that I’m crazy for her.
She told me she feels the same way, but wants to take it slow.
I’ve been dating her for three months now (about 12-13 dates) and everything seems to be going well.
A couple of weeks ago she asked me about my feelings, what am I feeling.