I knew enough about sexually transmitted diseases to know that I had herpes, but I didn't know exactly what to do.As I sat in the college health center waiting to see a doctor, I watched my very short-lived social life drift by.Condoms are not guaranteed to prevent infection, but research has shown that they provide some protection. Exploring them can enrich your sex life and make up for having to avoid other activities because of genital herpes.Consult a health care professional if you have any doubts about what's safe and what is not.I was thinking that I'd probably never go on another date, or get a boyfriend for that matter, and I'd certainly never have sex again.The nurse who examined me revealed that she had herpes and said it was no big deal.
Now, you must be careful about what you do and when you do it.
Make sure you wash the toy before and after, and don't share it.
You might also consider taking antiviral drug therapy for genital herpes to reduce the amount of virus you shed.
A recent study shows that daily suppressive therapy (taking a drug daily to sharply reduce the frequency of outbreaks) may help keep your partner from being infected.
(You should still use a condom, however, because suppressive therapy is just 50% effective in preventing transmission.) Daily therapy isn't the only option, or necessarily the best one for you.