I know what really matters to me and what I want in the next 5 years. I'm never invited to holidays (we never spent holidays together, including midnight new years eve), I've never been introduced to his parents, and I often feel excluded. I know that I don't want this in the next 3 years, so it's negotiable who I spend my time with right now.
There is a part of coming together that is fun and intimate, so we're getting that much from it; but as any woman might understand, I'm aging and my desires are more solidified. I want to get married and have children (eventually).I don't think you two are up to the challenge, just move on. We've talked about this several times, all of them leading to arguments because he refuses to discuss it or address my feelings about the things that matter.Don't misunderstand me - this is NOT because he is Albanian and I'm not.Overall, we found a lot of similarities and a few differences in what factors and values go into happy marriages.We asked couples about their ideals regarding intimacy, involving how close and emotionally open they would like to be with their romantic partner.