I have many concerns about having sex after a long period of celibacy.I read one of your columns about a lady who couldn’t have intercourse because it was painful.returned to BBC One for a seventh series in January 2018, pulling in over 8.2 million consolidated viewers.The sun-soaked hit crime drama will be returning to our screens in 2019 for an eighth series, with Ardal O'Hanlon reprising the lead role of DI Jack Mooney.I am also afraid I will just burst into tears since I have not had an intimate relationship for so many years. You ask very important questions, and you’re smart to want to get these questions answered now, so that you know how to prepare for a sexual relationship that might be coming.
Please do not post anything to us as it cannot be returned.There are many health reasons for that (see my list of 33 reasons why weekly solo or partnered sex is good for you in my new book “The Ultimate Guide to Sex after 50”) – plus, the more you have orgasms during solo sex, the easier it will be to have them with a partner.You’ll want to include penetration with progressively larger penetrative sex toys (dildos) so that you’ll be able to accommodate a penis when you’re ready.Also, realize that your new partner will likely be having performance anxiety himself. When you’re ready to get naked, express that you’d like to take the pressure off by exploring each other without intercourse. By saving intercourse for another time, you relieve each other of anxiety and learn how to please each other.Before you get sexual with a partner, though, it would be wise to ramp up your solo sex to at least once a week.