For me, this isn't the time for 60s casual morality, and bouncing back from a failed relationship is too painful to just go with the flow.After a half-dozen dates, I began noticing the cracks in our relationship, and some were too big to paint over.But rushing to fall in love makes falling in love impossible for me, because the pressure to commit doesn't allow my feelings to develop naturally.In truth, falling in love is hard to resist in midlife.
It does, however, continue to present its challenges.
Finding a partner is important to me, mostly for the right reasons.
In a fledgling relationship, issues like dating exclusively and consistently showing up emotionally, require serious consideration because they imply intention.
My old demon, the need to feel loved, had been activated.
I've defeated this pesky nemesis, but he's resilient.